Unwritten dating rules

As a result, a player will often move onto the next people they date with a kind of soulless and jaded approach.

It’s just about how many hoops you both jump through to get to that end goal.If you’re on an app, you’re probably kinda thirsty and DTF or at least curious. Have you ever seen that meme ‘when you’re 46 weeks deep into lurking and you see something you don’t want to see…’ yeah, that’s why you should avoid doing it.But much like real-life, if it doesn’t happen right away, it probably won’t happen. Some things are better left unknown and left to fate.Gay guys have no problem with this; overall they make it quite clear they want to carry on having sex afterwards and whether or not they’re looking for anything serious.So maybe what we can learn from all this is quite simple: be honest.But now that cuffing season is officially over and spring has sprung, it’s a good time to establish some ground rules, and air out some basic do’s and don’ts. If they’re looking to get laid, they put out a thirst trap, out come the dog-filter Snapchats, the subtly sexual ‘mood’ posts and late-night ‘me rn’ selfies. Wait too long and the match loses the initial surprise and energy.I asked a bunch of men and women, straight and gay, some questions about how they behave when dating online. Overall, men didn’t seem to care what they post, their profile pics or what women put, when they’re on dating apps they’re simply “on safari”. There’s also an attraction to assertiveness.” Said one of the guys I asked. Other than finding out who each other’s mutual friends are and where their aunt went on holiday last year.None of my friends use or Guardian Soulmates and the sheer immediacy of dating apps is a whole different playing field to traditional ‘online dating’ or meeting someone IRL. The online playing field is fickle, fast-paced and essentially, entirely superficial.Within minutes you can find someone hot, then find out if they like similar things to you, hang out at the same places, then within seconds find out who your mutual friends are, where they last got drunk and where their mum lives. The excitement and urgency at which we find people is reflective of the speed at which we move on.There’s something innately unnatural about finding out so much information so soon though. And in the flurry of pheromones and dick-pics we forget all the niceties and basic manners that come with meeting people offline.Do you really need to go back 72 weeks and find out that they low-key used to use the Toaster filter? It can all start to feel like a weird hyper-sexualised version of The Sims, where you’re briefly enamoured by the idea of someone and then quickly create a new character to obsess over. If you’re a guy do you go for a The Game (aka Meat Print Papi) style photo? Most apps are now linked to Instagram anyway, I know girls who’ve purposefully ‘rebranded’ themselves depending on what they’re looking for: if they’re looking for a boyfriend, they’ve refrained from drunk posts, bikini ass selfies, cigarettes in hand…

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